Orion on Rebalancing

It can be very supportive to really remember yourselves as part of the grand collective.  Some people find it disconcerting, at times, to be part of the grand collective.  At other times, when you are feeling in isolation or you are feeling overwhelmed or you don’t know how to muddle through a problem or a challenge, just keep tucked somewhere in your awareness that not only are you really not all alone in it, actually without your conscious awareness recognizing it, aspects of you are probably
in communication.  They are already reaching out, trying to as they say, receive or bring in an answer, an insight, an idea.  You are already open to recognizing support.  So often we do see this flow of communication in that kind of thing we call coincidence of synchronicity.  ‘I was just thinking of you and the phone rang.’  ‘I didn’t know where to turn with this problem and suddenly I remembered something I was told a long time ago.’  And so on and so forth.  We accept that kind of thing as part of our everyday.  Some people are more aware of that phenomena than other, but it is easy to still see coincidence and synchronicity as an anomaly, as an exception, a momentary thing – as opposed to really seeing it just a reminder of how we are in a very vast dialogue.      


It doesn’t mean also the way people want to make synchronicity and coincidence be that which you can command and direct.  Such as, ‘I will affirm for this and my intent and attention will reel it into me.’  What people forget is it is not kind of exchange.  It is again, more like a dialogue, a conversation.  And when you’re having a conversation, you don’t really know every exact that thing the other person or the people in the group, are going to say.  You don’t really know what their response will be.  And so if you say something as simple as, ‘Isnt’ it a nice day?’ and you may assume everyone will say, ‘Oh yes, it’s very nice,’ but you might find one person who says, ‘It’s a dreadful day.  It’s the worst day ever.’  So that response would then take this sort of casual hello statement to another place.  ‘Oh really, what’s happened with you?'  Or 'Gee, that would upset me too.’ and so forth.

 So when we think of ourselves in this grand collective, when we think of ourselves engaged – consciously, unconsciously, subconsciously – in this dialogue with the Universe, we have to bring with it – and life with ask this of us, even if we are resistant to it – our willingness to actually listen and base our responses on what comes present and what is actually part of this grand conversation.

 So many people find life very frustrating when the conversation goes awry.  And as many teachings share, the frustration doesn’t really come from the conversation itself going awry.  The frustration, the difficulty and challenge comes from our expectations, our assumptions, our understanding, our unexamined understanding that the conversation with the All or just there with your partner or your boss will go a certain way.  And when it doesn’t, it’s always disconcerting and you might not be able to interrupt that reaction of disconcertment, because so many things come into play and our reactions happen first, typically quicker than the discerning conscious mind can come into play.  But even though you have a reaction, we still have and can take, the wonderful opportunity to stop and say to ourselves, ‘Well that was my first reaction, now what can my response be?’  And from there, you may be able to allow yourself to come into alignment with the conversation, with the dialogue of this grand collective and say, ‘What works best right now?  Can I be with this right now?  How can I be with this right now?’  Or less philosophically, you could say, ‘Damn, that knocked me for a loop!  Wait a minute, I’ve got to see where I’m at.’  You see, we don’t all have to sound like our idea of the wonderful Dali Lama and go into zen equanimity.

Re-balancing can happen in a lot of ways.  We can throw a scene.  We can curse.  We can admit to being totally flustered.  We can have a whole array of responses that follow reaction and reactions themselves can come in an array, but even then, we still have another opportunity to pause, to remember, ‘Okay, I’m not controlling this grand conversation of the collective.  Now what?’  And those of you who actually have a construct, a belief that considers that is an interconnection of all things, who holds perhaps direct experience of ‘I know I am part of this grand collective.’  From there you have still another support.  Another support to allow yourself to take a breath, to take a pause, to stop quietly, to hold yourself for a moment.  Consider that your reactions are like pinballs and you need to wait until they finally come to rest before you can proceed.  The reaction pinballs go boing, boing, boing and finally, they all line up at rest, and right there you can say, ‘Okay, now what?’ 

The more you consider your reactions as pinballs shooting out and picture that movement as the way energy moves, and that you will be given opportunities to direct and frame the experience, although it is not given to you to direct and frame every experience. You can then recognize that you will be given that space where the pinballs stop bouncing and they line up in the little channel and in that resting place you can find yourself able to ask ‘Okay, now what?’  And also in that very resting space, you can see it as a spaciousness – an open space is filled and can be filled with myriad energies.  Energies of support , energy of clarity, of information, energy that leads to direct connections that create support and clarity and information. 

We know that many of you have had that direct experience of in the midst of difficulty, you felt the possibility of support and shifts that could come.  We want to remind you again and again of this awareness.  And why ‘again and again’?  Because as we say, everyday life doesn’t remind you of it.  Everyday life gives you so many other messages.  Either you’re in control of nothing or you are in control of everything and if it hasn’t gone the right way, you’ve failed at exercising your control.  Everyday life is very complex and gets more and more complex.  People take on more and more a sense of responsibility for things that they truly cannot be responsible for.  People like to think of themselves as very free, that they have so many options and so many opportunities.  But what we have noticed, possibly somewhat as an outgrowth of some of the political agendas of past times, the culture has become more and more a strong, harping superego and yet people, think they are very free.  

People make jokes of this, ‘Oh now that we have cell phones and computers I can work from anywhere, isn’t that great and free.’  It is great and free, but on the other hand, people are now expected to work from everywhere, anywhere and at any time.  So you don’t have the support of the boundaries one had before.  What we find is that people are being held more and more responsible.  If you’re late for a meeting because there’s a big accident on the beltway, someone’s going to say, ‘You should have left earlier.  You could have avoided that accident, if you had left an hour earlier.’  And people follow that thinking.  ‘Oh yes, I should leave four hours earlier for everything I do, so I always have plenty of time to never miss an appointment.’  The culture is giving more and more personal responsibility in areas that were not your responsibility and people are taking it on.  In the past, you would have been given a break, given a pass.  ‘Oh it’s terrible that you were stuck on the beltway.’ 

These attitudes are the surround you are embedded in and it’s like the other side of the grand collective.  So you have the grand collective of a great wonderful dialogue of interconnection that makes people say, ‘Ah, I am part of all there is.’ And then you have this kind of grand collective, which is more like the science-fiction image of the Borg, as if you all have to be in the same mind, you are all responsible for everything and it’s all up to you.  This continues the illusion of control, which individuals and cultures desperately want to hold on to.  And the culture is now living ‘no control.’  They are living the result of taking away supportive controls, taking away structures and armatures that support limits we agree to.

Freedom in and of itself isn’t free.  To really allow energy to flow, to leap and grow and flourish, it involves as well, supportive structures and armatures. You can give these supportive structures and armatures to yourself in your own life, as in structuring time for rest and renewal.  Turning off your cell phone. Saying you are not available 24/7.  And if you don’t declare it out loud, saying to yourself and being incredulous that someone expects you to respond at a time that feels very unaligned to you.  Setting these boundaries is especially important now, because as the culture doesn’t hold these supportive boundaries, the individual will need to hold them for themselves.  What we find is people are very responsive to boundaries.  They don’t love it; it’s not their assumption that one should respect someone else in those kind of ways, but we see people beginning to make that kind of supportive structure in their own lives, which then models it for others. 

Remind yourself that when life seems only one way, it is actually never just one way.  So when the collective operates on unquestioned assumptions, then we lose our discriminations and discernments.  The collective and the unconscious elements interact and we have to give our attention to ourselves.  ‘Oh, I really overdid it that time, I’m exhausted.  I need to set a boundary with that person.  Oh, I’m not all alone in this, even though sometimes I feel that way.’  And keeping our attention aware of shift and change and mutability as part of the core nature of being is so supportive, as opposed to clinging to the illusion we life is a kind of steady progression.  Again, this is what the culture is exploring.  ‘We have to now look at that apparently there cannot just be a singular, steady progression.  Life has ebb and flow.  The physical form has ebb and flow, the seasons, nature.  All the elements of this world has ebb and flow.  All the traditions refer to ebb and flow, a season for all things.  Chaos and creation.  Yin and yang.

This principle is not only black and white and polar opposites, but one that is multifaceted. There is no need to hold the specifics; just hold present in your attention the principle that life is really complex. ‘I may be looking only at this aspect, but if suddenly I’m really tired, maybe I need to stop and see what else is going on.  Oh, maybe I do get brain fatigue after being at my computer for 15 hours.’  Keep your attention alive and active to the knowingness of multiplicity.  Conversely, at another time, let your attention find it’s resting places, it’s quiet place, it’s refreshing distractions and still other energies.  We need to use varying energies through our day.  We are varied beings and the world is a varied energy environment and varied being.

 Life really is a dancing web of energy, a dancing being, with many variations all in a movement that no one really gets to see or discern in totality and there is no need to.  You are here and you will see and you will find, again and again, the note that you are, the movement that you are, the flow that you are part of in this grand dance of life, of being.

 Orion

 

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